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femkes_follies ([personal profile] femkes_follies) wrote2010-08-24 09:02 pm

Having a Moment

Ah, the joys of parental self-doubt. Amplified by special needs.

Today's menu:

Am I pushing her into dance class against her will, just because I want her to do it? Does she object from time to time because she doesn't like it? Or just because she'd object to anything that was somebody trying to get her to do something specific?

Would it make enough of a difference to her to try a gluten-free diet... even though she subsists off bread, toast, breaded chicken, and other wheat products? I could try some of King Arthur's GF products... though they're outrageously expensive. And it would be awfully hard to control outside the house. :-/ I don't notice any correlation at all between what she eats and how she acts. I'm pretty convinced it's not an issue for her. But sometimes it seems like it's such a part of dealing with Autism that not doing it makes you a bad Mommy.

If I could/did spend the time with her to go through all the workbooks Mom buys and all the various worksheets that are available.. would it help? Could she BE more if I tried harder.

Repeat for Rori.

>:-(

Having a Bad Momma week.

[identity profile] hsifeng.livejournal.com 2010-08-25 02:37 am (UTC)(link)
There are only so many things you have control over here honey - don't beat yourself up for making the best choices for you and your family. Would other people make other choices, maybe? Would they be better? Who knows. You love your kids and make decisions that you feel will be for the best *for them* based on what you know.

Don't beat yourself up...

*HUGS*

[identity profile] femkederoas.livejournal.com 2010-08-25 02:34 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks. *g*

I suspect that self-flagellation is the mark of the experienced mother. Extra lashes added to the whip per child in the family. ;-)

[identity profile] hsifeng.livejournal.com 2010-08-25 03:16 pm (UTC)(link)
As an experienced self-flagellator (lordy, I just *love* being a co-dependent! *chuckle*), I know it’s not all that it’s cracked up to be…

….

Crap. Unintended morning pun.

Where is my coffee?

*wanders off to get more caffeine*