This Modern Life
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femkes_folliesThings I'm getting tired of: General obliviousness.
Why is it that so many people are completely immune to the needs of anybody but themselves? The short list:
People who hunt on other peoples' land without permission. WTF? It's not your land, and it's utterly irrelevant whether the owner hunts him/herself or not. Get permission or get off. Corollary - If you have a snowmobile - keep to trails, public land, or land you have permission to ride on. You do NOT have an easement to use any portion of private property. Not even that near the road.
People who think I should move heaven and earth to accomodate THEM just because the appointment I have available is inconvenient. Example - "I need to bring my dog in, she's coughing." "Well, we have no openings tomorrow, but I can have you come at 9:30 and we can work you in." "Can't I come later, like 11:30? My husband wants to hunt tomorrow." Arrrggghhhh!!!
Making insensitive comments to someone, since it doesn't bother YOU. Example: One co-worker trying to get another to adopt a stray dog. "But I have a dog." "Well, yeah, but not for much longer." ?!? Even if the pet is elderly... is this really the right way to go about this? I mean, honestly! Granted, my mother can be sort of oblivious sometimes, but she's so sweet natured, you just tend to let it go. (I didn't so much when I was a teenager, waiting endlessly for Mom to admit when she was wrong. Which she doesn't do. Anymore, I recognize that she doesn't MEAN to be clueless. And she feels very, very bad when you point it out.) Grandmama, OTOH - I usually suspect of being malicious in intent as well as result. There are others whom I'm not sure if the constant stream of insensitive commentary is cluelessness or malice. Past a certain point, I stop caring which and opt instead to enter avoidance mode. I don't need that aggravation. I've had many over the years. I will grant, I am not always the soul of tact. However, I'm at least aware of what I'm doing. And generally I can spot wounds and I honestly make an effort at not rubbing salt into them if I can help it. Or try to blame my own faux pas on the other person. *eye roll* Eeesh. I just dispense with the filters with people who have annoyed the snot out of me, or are being deliberately and intently stupid. That kind of dumb does not deserve kid gloves. Hell, half the time they don't even notice they've been insulted.
Any insinuation from politicians in general that I'm too stupid to take care of myself. I do not need a cradle-to-grave welfare state. I'm a big girl. And I'm pretty sure that none of the wing-nuts who think they're "helping" have the foggiest idea what my best interests even ARE. Besides, I reserve the right to do what I WANT from time to time, even if it isn't the BEST decision I could have made, for various values of "best." Both sides are guilty. The condescension is almost enough to make me physically ill, sometimes.
Passive aggressiveness. Demanding things are your way or the highway. And dressing it all up with polite smiles and words. Being a bloody dictator is still being a dictator, no matter how you try to pretty it up. Even in the small world of a workplace, home, school, or whatever. Manipulation aggravates me. Say what you want. And respect my right to tell you I don't want to do it that way.
Lack of basic manners. Yes, invitations are still a necessity. So are Thank-you notes. If you invite a whole bunch of people to your wedding, and then hold it thousands of miles away so that most of them won't come and you still get a small wedding... it is going to look like you're basically trolling for gifts. Even if you aren't. Etc.
Show up on time for appointments. Wait patiently for your turn in line. And don't be an SOB to whoever is at the desk just because the brand YOU wanted isn't on sale.
The assumption that if you have money, everybody should cater to you - after all, you're willing to pay. Sorry, but I don't base my schedule on finances, I base it on which pets NEED to be seen most urgently. I don't care if you're willing to pay more. Go to the E-clinic then.
Basically, the human race is currently annoying me. If anyone wants me, I'll be under a pile of cats on the couch.
Why is it that so many people are completely immune to the needs of anybody but themselves? The short list:
People who hunt on other peoples' land without permission. WTF? It's not your land, and it's utterly irrelevant whether the owner hunts him/herself or not. Get permission or get off. Corollary - If you have a snowmobile - keep to trails, public land, or land you have permission to ride on. You do NOT have an easement to use any portion of private property. Not even that near the road.
People who think I should move heaven and earth to accomodate THEM just because the appointment I have available is inconvenient. Example - "I need to bring my dog in, she's coughing." "Well, we have no openings tomorrow, but I can have you come at 9:30 and we can work you in." "Can't I come later, like 11:30? My husband wants to hunt tomorrow." Arrrggghhhh!!!
Making insensitive comments to someone, since it doesn't bother YOU. Example: One co-worker trying to get another to adopt a stray dog. "But I have a dog." "Well, yeah, but not for much longer." ?!? Even if the pet is elderly... is this really the right way to go about this? I mean, honestly! Granted, my mother can be sort of oblivious sometimes, but she's so sweet natured, you just tend to let it go. (I didn't so much when I was a teenager, waiting endlessly for Mom to admit when she was wrong. Which she doesn't do. Anymore, I recognize that she doesn't MEAN to be clueless. And she feels very, very bad when you point it out.) Grandmama, OTOH - I usually suspect of being malicious in intent as well as result. There are others whom I'm not sure if the constant stream of insensitive commentary is cluelessness or malice. Past a certain point, I stop caring which and opt instead to enter avoidance mode. I don't need that aggravation. I've had many over the years. I will grant, I am not always the soul of tact. However, I'm at least aware of what I'm doing. And generally I can spot wounds and I honestly make an effort at not rubbing salt into them if I can help it. Or try to blame my own faux pas on the other person. *eye roll* Eeesh. I just dispense with the filters with people who have annoyed the snot out of me, or are being deliberately and intently stupid. That kind of dumb does not deserve kid gloves. Hell, half the time they don't even notice they've been insulted.
Any insinuation from politicians in general that I'm too stupid to take care of myself. I do not need a cradle-to-grave welfare state. I'm a big girl. And I'm pretty sure that none of the wing-nuts who think they're "helping" have the foggiest idea what my best interests even ARE. Besides, I reserve the right to do what I WANT from time to time, even if it isn't the BEST decision I could have made, for various values of "best." Both sides are guilty. The condescension is almost enough to make me physically ill, sometimes.
Passive aggressiveness. Demanding things are your way or the highway. And dressing it all up with polite smiles and words. Being a bloody dictator is still being a dictator, no matter how you try to pretty it up. Even in the small world of a workplace, home, school, or whatever. Manipulation aggravates me. Say what you want. And respect my right to tell you I don't want to do it that way.
Lack of basic manners. Yes, invitations are still a necessity. So are Thank-you notes. If you invite a whole bunch of people to your wedding, and then hold it thousands of miles away so that most of them won't come and you still get a small wedding... it is going to look like you're basically trolling for gifts. Even if you aren't. Etc.
Show up on time for appointments. Wait patiently for your turn in line. And don't be an SOB to whoever is at the desk just because the brand YOU wanted isn't on sale.
The assumption that if you have money, everybody should cater to you - after all, you're willing to pay. Sorry, but I don't base my schedule on finances, I base it on which pets NEED to be seen most urgently. I don't care if you're willing to pay more. Go to the E-clinic then.
Basically, the human race is currently annoying me. If anyone wants me, I'll be under a pile of cats on the couch.
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Hunting on other's land without permission
Date: 2009-11-21 04:14 am (UTC)I DO NOT CARE if you want to hunt. If you're doing it where I live I will tell you about my child and the neighbors kids & I have the right to refuse you ON my land. I was *really* ticked. Haven't seen that guy back. The first one, yeah.. he hasn't gotten anything yet, but he's hopeful.
Re: Hunting on other's land without permission
Date: 2009-11-23 03:34 pm (UTC)It's gone on for years. I had more than one coat as a kid chosen not for stylishness but for visibility. Never blaze orange, but sometimes not far off.
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Date: 2009-11-21 03:06 pm (UTC)Ugh, used to have a fair chunk several years ago and even took the time to post the private property and signs informing them that they can not hunt there... we stopped getting people coming in with guns but apparently they still figured it was fine to set up rabbit snares... we had very small children, chickens and a cat at the time
"Making insensitive comments to someone"
Though I have found myself doing this a few times when I used to work in an animal shelter... there are moments, though, when one would want to do more than that so figured I handled myself fairly well. No longer work there, it was killing my brain :-O
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Date: 2009-11-23 03:36 pm (UTC)And frankly, it's a little different when you're indicating reality to somebody (often in the best interest of the pet), than when you're just so completely self-absorbed that someone else's sore spots just never even enter into your consciousness.