It Cannot Be Said I Didn't Try...

[femkes_follies]

... but it can possibly be said I didn't try very hard. ;-)



Apparently certain Persons within a specific Kingdom Guild were bent on another "letter writing campaign" where they try to get everybody and their cousins and second cousins to write recommendations for awards - whether you know the recipient or not. Now, while I'm all for "Hey, this person deserves the Order of the Whomping Weevil," I reserve the right to agree or disagree based on my own conscience. They also are inclined to report on the form that said would-be recipient will be at every Royal event on the Calendar, knowing full well this is not true.

Failing to derive satisfaction in the matter, it has now come to the E-list.

*eye roll*

Pause for Drahma of the "Mean Girls" variety. Apparently Yours Truly is the Mean Girl Prime. Why?

Well, it seems that one of the Officers, at least, and many of the General Population believe that the Guild should, in its official capacity (it has one?), arrange to put people in for awards. I opined that I felt this was NOT, in fact, an appropriate Group Function. I will not submit a recommendation I do not have firsthand knowledge of or do not agree with. Nor did I see why it needed to be a "function" of what is, effectively, a Household with a Royal stamp of approval.

This makes me Unsupportive of my Guild Sisters, Unworthy of respect, and Guilty of making other members who DO want cookies feel bad.

Apparently I shall be sentenced to 90 lashes with a wet noodle. *eye roll*

Bloody Hell.

WHY does "support" have to mean cookies??

Are we F-ing Girl Scouts? Where's my sash? Where are my Merit Badges.

Grow up, people.

My understanding was that this was to be a Kingdom-wide Schola of sorts. Not an E-mail Mutual Admiration Society. (There are apparently 200+ people on the E-list. Approximately 12 of them post at all). If all that will ever happen here is silly gossip on the E-list, extortion of projects for Gift Baskets (Which are supposed to be demonstrably period. But don't dare ever point out that someone else's project isn't at all period!), and stroking of egos whilst conspiring to make sure everybody rises up the Cursus Honorum as if it were a Bloody game of Non-Competetive Musical Chairs... It's probably time for me to take my marbles and go home.

There's probably a snark in here somewhere - if I can stop banging my head on the wall long enough to compose it.

Comments

I'm with ya, sis

[evavano.livejournal.com]

WHY does "support" have to mean cookies??

I'm flummoxed by this as well. She's been like this for a while, and I suspect I have this very thing to thank for my all my cookies above the AOA. Thinking about giving them back :-P

Re: I'm with ya, sis

[femkederoas.livejournal.com]

I will say that nothing made me feel better about my Tree than the number of people who came up to me afterwards and said "You didn't have that already? Oops."

(Apparently you and I are the only ones who know how to check the OP. BTW - for fun go check for my Leetle Friend on the list and much will be revealed to you.)

Know what you mean, though. There are certain things I do NOT want - because I know I'm not "there" yet. And there are certain things I do not aspire to because I lack that gift (Pelican, for instance).

I do, at least, usually recognize my own personality flaws. If only because various relations have excelled at pointing them out over the years. Not entirely sure Grandma missed any.

Re: I'm with ya, sis

[evavano.livejournal.com]

BTW - for fun go check for my Leetle Friend on the list and much will be revealed to you.

Ah, I DO see. :-)

[landverhuizer.livejournal.com]

Ugh... that is such a peeve and to think that these actions are being supported on such a large scale... Oh My... jaw drops!

I have witnessed it on a smaller scale though, people rounding up others on a letter writing campaign to the point of sharing/writing letters en masse to make sure they were all covering the same points (for those who didn't know what to write). Don't know how many people actually sent in letters at that point, but the fact that it is viewed as an acceptable method blows my mind!

Oh well... as long as they leave me out of it... though if prompted, I'd be happy to share my disgust.

I almost worry that I too could have received awards in this manner, but since it really doesn't change anything for me... *shrugs*

[femkederoas.livejournal.com]

It makes me crazy on many levels. And would have made me really regret my GoA level A&S award, had not numerous people afterwards remark "You didn't have that already? Ooops." THAT made me feel I might have actually been ready.

[estela-dufrayse.livejournal.com]

I have to say that the cookie lust drives me a bit around the bend as well. I wish there was some other way, but alas I don't believe there is.

all we can do is voice our opinions and let the chips fall where they may

[femkederoas.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Trying to decide how much energy I want to spend rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.

[lilacmoon5.livejournal.com]

All I can think of is the new Cookie Monster line. A cookie is a sometimes treat.

I agree with you, the support of the guild is not about awards. I have said that to both persons that I know feel its all about getting everyone awards. Maybe I will catch up and wade into the drama with you later.

-Elvira

[femkederoas.livejournal.com]

I was actually rather disappointed when they tamed Cookie Monster. ;-) I think kids are smart enough to realize that he wasn't a good role model.

Adults OTOH....

*pound head*

[landverhuizer.livejournal.com]

they tamed the cookie monster?!?! :-O.... oh no!

[femkederoas.livejournal.com]

Yeah, now he only gobbles in moderation and sez "A cookie is a sometimes snack. Which rather blows any plotline that involves him eating all of whatever kind of cookies had been left unattended by the poor sap who was trying to mail them to Granny or take them to Auntie or bring them to the bakesale. ;-)

[tattycat.livejournal.com]

Oh, sad. One of the greatest joys of any award is knowing that your work is viewed positively by your peers. If your little friend thinks that the recipients *don't* know who doesn't know their work, she's not giving people much credit.

[femkederoas.livejournal.com]

Some people don't CARE how they get the cookie, so long as they get it. And they're the ones who want the full weight of the group behind them to "work the system".

Personally, I don't think many of these people have the foggiest clue what I've been up to, nor what meaning it has. They aren't the people I WANT recommending me, as their opinion has no weight as far as I'm concerned.

Just SO frustrated. It's a group that could do a lot, if the sniveling would only stop.